It’s funny how life goes on after a huge disappointment. We both simply slipped back into the peaceful routine of our beautiful life. I guess it just wasn’t time yet for us to have a baby and I’ve accepted that it’s going to take longer than we first thought.
Our Follow-Up Consultation:
We arranged a telephone consultation with our fertility doctor for the day after our OTD back on the 31st March. The nurses were very sympathetic during our communications with them, as we let them know of our unsuccessful transfer. They were not overly sympathetic, mind you; I’ve heard of clinic reactions being completely over the top… like reacting as you would to the news of a loved one’s death, you know? A negative pregnancy test is sad, but it doesn’t require any theatrics or any sort of gasping emotional sentiment. The simple ‘I’m sorry to hear that’ we received from our clinic was a perfect response.
The consultation with our doctor happened on 1st April. New beginnings being discussed on the first of the month, I liked that. Our doctor is great. We were lucky to get an appointment when we did. She was booked up for two weeks after that. She’s completely unemotional and responds with autistic data and logic. She’s a scientist and a highly skilled medical professional; she is not our friend. She’s not a warm person, though she tries hard to be pleasant. She does her job brilliantly, she’s knowledgable, assertive, commanding and we think she’s sexy A.F (as fuck, not Aunt Flo).
We didn’t expect any answers from her in terms of why it didn’t work, but what we did get from her was a real sense that she had considered our case from an individual perspective before giving us our options for next time.
So… it’s been a while since we spoke with her but I’ll try to remember what we spoke about.
She glossed over the failed cycle, said it was unfortunate, but that as there is only a 50% chance of success (due to K’s age, the fact that it’s intrapartner etc), we shouldn’t be worried yet. She told us about the grades of our embryos. I can’t remember the exactly quality. One is top quality. One is a very good quality. The last one is not so good, but our doctor said that she still has patients become pregnant with this quality of embryo.
Next time we could transfer two embryos if we liked. She repeated the risk of multiple births, but would be prepared to transfer two as transferring just one had failed us last time. I still remain glad that we only transferred the one last time. Part of me is wondering, though, whether our destiny is twins and perhaps it didn’t work last time because we were going against fate, putting only one embryo in. We’ll see.
The doctor asked whether I would be prepared to be sedated for the frozen embryo transfer, given that I found the procedure so uncomfortable last time. I agreed that this would be an excellent idea and she noted that on our file. I asked whether my being so stressed during the previous E.T could have affected the procedure’s outcome. She said there was not enough data to say. She didn’t say no, though, which makes me think that perhaps there is some truth in this.
My meds will be the same for next time. I could have an endo scratch if the frozen embryo transfer doesn’t work. She said they generally don’t do endometrial scratches until a couple of failed cycles have occurred. Hopefully it won’t come to that.
3 frozen embryos (1 excellent quality, one good quality, one poor quality)
I’ll be sedated for the next cycle.
We’ll potentially transfer two embryos.
I could have an endo scratch before the FET, or wait to see if the next cycle fails, and do that as a next step.
Oh and I need to have one natural cycle, med-free, before we can try again. ^_^ I just need to call the clinic on the first day of my period and then we can begin. I doubt we’ll be ready then. We’ll wait as long as we need to.